The soft start is fixed duration on the 50A V3, you cant adjust it. I have one on my Chase 360 and the soft start I consider to be perfect, one of the best around. Sure it takes several seconds to get up to speed but that's how a soft start is meant to work..
As for the RPM fluctuating. What % throttle curve are you using? If using governor you cant use more than about 85% or so (and it must me a 'flat curve'). Any higher % doesnt leave enough overhead to govern. It's normal when in the default 'ELF' governor mode that the RPM will dip ever so slightly as the governor sets, but after that assuming your throttle curve is ok it should be stable. If you set the ESC to 'Gov Store' you dont get the slight dip because it remembers the settings and doesnt have to calibrate on each startup.
Maybe if you posted a video of what it's doing it could be better diagnosed.